INSIGHTS INTO AN ADULTHOOD!

It's not whether you disagree or fight but how you disagree or fight. That's true of all relationships, including that of the adult child and parent.

There are many reasons that can cause tension between an adult and a parent and, sometimes, escalate into real estrangement.

It's not whether you disagree or fight but how you disagree or fight. That's true of all relationships, including that of the adult child and parent.

There are many reasons that can cause tension between an adult and a parent and, sometimes, escalate into real estrangement.

CAUSES FOR CLASHES

> Some parents expect that, by virtue of their involvement in their adult child's life, they are guaranteed some kind of payback. Too many expectations can hurt.

> Disappointment in partner choices Sometimes there are very good reasons for a parent to voice concerns about a partner that their child has chosen -but the reality is that sometimes a parent's objections will have more to do with their own rigidity about " the best way to live life, " or what they consider important to a successful marriage, or some kind of prejudice.

> Freighted comparisons to siblings, relatives, or others - Sometimes parents wrongly assume that one way of motivating a child is to compare him or her to a sibling. This is an off-ramp to conflict. Do not compare your adult child to anyone.

> Labeling disagreement as "disrespectful." - Regardless of what the culture says, respect for parents is earned by parents in the day-to-day and not conveyed by some magic wand. Shutting an adult child down on the basis of respect "owed" may work in the short term but not in the long run.

PRECAUTIONS THAT PARENTS NEED TO KEEP IN MIND:-

1. Listen to your kid - Parents preach. A lot. Even the stuff that doesn't suit them. It doesn't help in any way. Rather listening to what your child has to say and understanding their viewpoints are more important.

2. Don't pressurize - Parents set standards for their children by talking about the things that they were used to doing when they were of their kids' age. It puts additional pressure on children. It is important that you understand today's generation and set realistic expectations.

3. Empathies - Try to put yourself in your child's shoes. Understand that your child is going through emotional stress and accept the fact that what may not be a big deal to you could be an issue for your child.

4. Communicate- Engage in activities that involve bonding with your child, be it going to movies or dinners together. Working parents, especially, find it difficult to spend enough. time with their kid and this may lead to a lack of communication. A friendly environment will encourage your kid to share his / her worries with you. A parent's job is to show the right path in those situations, in a non - authoritarian way.

5. Respect privacy- While it is important to monitor what your child is up to, it is equally essential to know when to back off and respect his / her privacy. Giving your kid his / her space will ensure that he/she turns into an independent adult.

6. Be a friend more than a parent - At this age, your kid is looking more for a friend in you rather than a strict parent. If you are objecting to any particular behavior of your kid, give a reason.